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WAR AGAINST RAPE


The mind that conceived rape has invariably desecrated his mother. If he could do so to his mother's image, he’s no different from a Billy goat. It's an aberration to the cyst that held him for nine months and derangement to his matriline (maternal lineage).

Therefore, It behooves us to enlighten everyone (a female can also rape though they thrive more on seduction, a rape of reasoning ) not to bastardize their matriline ( or patriline). Rape has different degrees of delicacy: soft rape and hard rape. A rape is beyond the physical assault of genitalia but also the seeming insignificant abuses female folks are subject to in our social spaces: at work, at home, at the cinema, etc.  Making passes and unethical touching is an abuse of authority when those are not verbally or impliedly welcomed. Those are a stage in rape. They may be soft or subtle yet any sexual assault is synonymous to rape. 

Kindly, note that rape becomes a rape when it's carried out without the victim's consent. The only confusion is often what's regarded as consent. Consent is an affirmation and readiness to have sexual activity. It may be verbal or at times implied. Consent can be complicated by law, context, language, culture and sexual orientation. A husband may abuse his legal privilege by disregarding his wife's consent prior to intercourse. Verbal ’No’ may culturally be regarded as "try more", while expression and composure at times can be misconstrued or rightly construed as an implied consent.  

In the absence of any form of consent, all sexual activities will be an abuse. Making passes at subordinate is an abuse of authority: likewise gory overtures to people at disadvantaged situations --house help, cleaners, etc.  A supposed consent will be invalidated if the victim is beyond the age of consent, or mentally compromised, or under influence of alcohol or drug, or under duress, or unconscious etc. 

Where a husband forcibly compelled his wife, it is a spousal rape or marital rape and domestic violence. A statutory rape, set by government is in order to protect young people who are considered not old enough to give consent, is sexual contact with an underage.  Rape of children can be incestuous or child-on-child abuse or an abuse by an adult. In addition to these, there are other types: gang rape, date rape, custodial rape, serial rape, prison rape, war rape etc

The most heinous part of a rape situation is the aftereffect on the victim. The physical impact includes health complications that may not at every occurrence be a consequence (vagina bleeding and infections, pregnancy, hypoactive sexual desire disorder etc). The unseen psychological trauma has the most grievous effect on the victim. It graduates from self-blame, to social stigmatization like victim-blaming, slut-blaming, isolation, condemnation, victim-muting etc. At extreme cases, victims may commit suicide.

Therefore, my brother, those tiny harassments, the buttocks, intentional sensuous collision, are the soft-core. It graduates to assault if there's no consent, then to violations, the hardcore.  Remember, she's an image of your daughter who also interacts with males every day. Respect her and establish the needed consent before sexual descent.

--toonday
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