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GRIEF-PLOITATION AND MEDIA TRAFFIC


Traffic, like we are conversant with, is the amount of people who pass through a certain place at a certain moment in a certain way. The likes of facebook posts, the views on YouTube uploads  and blog posts, the retweets and favourites on tweets, the clicks on your links and the comments on all these are regarded as social  traffics. The viability of these platforms depends on the traffics pulled. Thus, getting any amount of traffic becomes an obsession and a compulsive disorder to social media users. Since grief arrests human attention than any other emotion it has frequently been exploited and commercialized to serve the wants of traffic. 

The stages of grief are said to be five (Elizabeth Kubler Ross and David Kessler). The stage of denial when the bearer denies the reality and wishes away the calamitous happening: the stage of 'no' it can never happen. The stage of anger induced by the dawning of the harsh reality: where bearers questioned even their gods. Bargaining stage where the bearer wants a barter of any material to have the loss restored: 'if only' stage. Depression stage is a stage of realization where bearer shuts themselves out of the world with heavy grieving: life is meaningless stage. Finally, an acceptance stage where terms are accepted: the bearer comes to the reality. It is thus unbelievable that grief so tumultuous for the bearer has been turned into epic Internet sales.

This abuse of grief is a gradual evolution emanating from our prayer patterns where our prayers have selfishly been justified with the grief of others yet we 'never' pray for their reliefs. It's a lack of empathy. Now it's reflecting in our lives and the modern extension of which is the social media. We are lacking the requisite empathy to make a peaceful world. Oba Awujale is a revered king in YorubaLand. One fateful morning, news spread like wildfire in harmattan that the Oba is dead. Like dry grasses crackling to the consuming heat, facebook, twitter, instagram, all went ariot with the false rumour. Their users all competed to have the most traffic on the breaking news. Interestingly the king was hale and hearty, the media had a fair share of its traffic but the gaffe portrayed the craze at which every Netizen ( A user of the Internet, esp. a habitual or avid one.) exploits grief to increase their patronage and share-worthiness.

The warning should be sounded deeper as cultures are disappearing and those surviving are digitized into an emerging coalition of an 'i-culture' (hybrids of cultures brought by fusion created by Internet connectivity). A culture that lacks empathy, that patronizes grief, is a demise of humanity. Now everyone wants to make a clip that can go viral even if it means shooting a scene of accident instead of helping to save lives (you'd see more camera than helping hands at accident scenes). A fall-out from what we are growing into.

Real commiserating should start with empathy, acknowledgment of varying stages a stricken fellow may be and until the person has come to terms with the situation, overt patronage of loss should be avoided as it can derail the individual and induce more psychological wreckage than necessary. 

"Grief-ploitation as described by rocketnetwork.co.uk has been a growing trend in advertising and media recently which involves using grief-related themes in communications to promote brands"– 

--toonday 



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