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RAPE AND CONSENT


When you think of what is happening in our environment, you would understand my blinded focus on a male-raping-female situation. It is prevalent. But for the sake of education, we should mention that a male can violate another. A female-on-female too is possible. Many kinds of rape are occurring but most times not reported.

"Where a husband forcibly compelled his wife, it is a spousal rape or marital rape and domestic violence. A statutory rape, set by the government is in order to protect young people who are considered not old enough to give consent, is sexual contact with an underage.  The rape of children can be incestuous or child-on-child abuse or abuse by an adult. In addition to these, there are other types: gang rape, date rape, custodial rape, serial rape, prison rape, war rape, etc" 

There is "peodo-voyeurism" where a warped mind pays or forces two kids to violate each other. The list is endless. But we need to know that consent is needed before intercourse. For underages, they cannot give consent. Therefore, at no point should they be engaging or engaged in sexual activities. 

Consent during the sex is equally important as before. Why? Because the lady may bargain for a particular expectation. And be met with a choking experience that could harm her. Even a change of sex style could make a woman rush into the toilet to defecate during sex. 

It affects them more than we guys. Because they are the receptors. The excuse that a guy could be in a mood wherein he won't be able to stop himself is like saying a guy cannot think when he is having intercourse. What if the lady is dying? Or the house is on fire? Would he be making the excuse of being in a psychological state of sexual arousal wherein the only thing that matters to him is to keep "drilling" regardless?

Women "are not holes but Souls". Sex is not drilling. Lovemaking even if it will be nasty must be mutually consented to. In fact, if we are talking about nastiness, we cannot exhaust the sickness that can accompany some fetish preference. But today, every man should give prim, and proper consideration to his sexual partner. As the partner should consider him too.

We cannot overemphasize it. There is some stallion strength that can hump breath out of a lady's body. As such, a gentleman could ask, " dear, are you enjoying it or it has become painful?". Then, consent established and the humping becomes verbally mutual. 

-toonday

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