There’s a thin line of difference between being boisterous and confident. Also, the determination of what is rude is often how the expression is perceived. HR Taiwo interviewed this brilliant dude who wanted to impress her with a simple compliment of “you smell nice”. HR Taiwo retorted “you are rude!” Twitter went agog with varying ideas. While some concluded that Nigerian HR acted like a mini-god, some decried the audacity of the guy.
What was HR expecting? A respectful "ma" to follow? Or she regarded the compliment as audacious flirting? What was the interviewee trying to achieve also? A memorable closure to the interview? Or a simple display of his confidence?
I understand she was too harsh with the retort but people can be that difficult. As an interviewee, do not allow yourself to be goaded into a position where such unruly interviewer will have a chance to hack you down. Flamboyant confidence can maim your chance with sadists on the seat
"You smell nice" can have different subjective interpretations. Just as "how was your night?" can be deemed too personal for some and still be passable to some people. Nigerian HR is harsh or maybe not. If you really need that job, let's your resume do the complimenting.
Anyways, truth be told. Telling someone that he or 'she smells nice' seems like making a pass. A bit too intimate for a compliment. Too bold, I do say. Rather return compliment for a compliment given and do not be too anxious to give one or else you burst it. Nigerian HR won't forgive you.
If you are like Zidane to a #realmadrid establishment, could any Nigerian HR trounce you for intimate compliments? They'd rather blush. Meaning: build your worth and your resume would've smitten the cabal. No need for an errant compliment when your resume should impress.
Then, I can surmise he hasn't really ended on a good note as he wished. Reader, we ain't saying HR was right. But who has more at stake? It's a survival intelligence to know when and to who you can drop compliment. Not the person who has been scowling and looking for ways to nail you.
Peace out.
---toonday
What was HR expecting? A respectful "ma" to follow? Or she regarded the compliment as audacious flirting? What was the interviewee trying to achieve also? A memorable closure to the interview? Or a simple display of his confidence?
I understand she was too harsh with the retort but people can be that difficult. As an interviewee, do not allow yourself to be goaded into a position where such unruly interviewer will have a chance to hack you down. Flamboyant confidence can maim your chance with sadists on the seat
"You smell nice" can have different subjective interpretations. Just as "how was your night?" can be deemed too personal for some and still be passable to some people. Nigerian HR is harsh or maybe not. If you really need that job, let's your resume do the complimenting.
Anyways, truth be told. Telling someone that he or 'she smells nice' seems like making a pass. A bit too intimate for a compliment. Too bold, I do say. Rather return compliment for a compliment given and do not be too anxious to give one or else you burst it. Nigerian HR won't forgive you.
If you are like Zidane to a #realmadrid establishment, could any Nigerian HR trounce you for intimate compliments? They'd rather blush. Meaning: build your worth and your resume would've smitten the cabal. No need for an errant compliment when your resume should impress.
Then, I can surmise he hasn't really ended on a good note as he wished. Reader, we ain't saying HR was right. But who has more at stake? It's a survival intelligence to know when and to who you can drop compliment. Not the person who has been scowling and looking for ways to nail you.
Peace out.
---toonday
The interviewee left what is important for less important thing...
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