toonday's perspectives

Parents would hardly understand just as you won't if your pet ( a cat, if you love cats) of many years is big enough to be undomesticated ( a cat leaves home when it is growing too big). That's a pet. Now imagine how it would feel for your mother who carried you for months unseen and you emerged with tiny-parts that marvelously developed into you.  At teenage, there's this air of defiance and deviance. Not only to parents but to social standards. That's why upright habits formed at this age is hard to lose and otherwise.  Your mind to your parents is like a new novel that every chapter holds episodic suspense. They see you developing that independent rationality that marvels them; You of tiny parts years ago.  How do you treat your favorite and most sensational novel that you are yet to fully devour its climactic chapters? You won't want to release it to the world just as your parents seek to have you close. Anyway, we are prayerfully expected to ou...

A father should be a hero: gallant, and valiant. That's relatively the social expectation of a father figure. For such structure, fatherhood extends beyond sperming an ovum.  That's our expectations. Failure on these expectations sees the society questioning the father of his moral claim on the child.  For a mother, there is the unmatchable and unquestionable nine-month sacrifice that any amount of post-birth mishap or misnomer could not erase. The pain a mother passes through during birth is beyond any bearable decibel.  Therefore the baggage of expectation is often much on the father, as the mother's nature-induced pain has compensated for anything. When a father fails, the society and the child complain. But, should that mindset be coming from the child without considering other factors? Many a father nowadays desires to be a role model but the gnawing environment saps their realities to pitiable shambles. No excuse for them though but time is ha...

There’s a thin line of difference between being boisterous and confident. Also, the determination of what is rude is often how the expression is perceived. HR Taiwo interviewed this brilliant dude who wanted to impress her with a simple compliment of “you smell nice”. HR Taiwo retorted “you are rude!” Twitter went agog with varying ideas. While some concluded that Nigerian HR acted like a mini-god, some decried the audacity of the guy. What was HR expecting? A respectful "ma" to follow? Or she regarded the compliment as audacious flirting? What was the interviewee trying to achieve also? A memorable closure to the interview? Or a simple display of his confidence? I understand she was too harsh with the retort but people can be that difficult. As an interviewee, do not allow yourself to be goaded into a position where such unruly interviewer will have a chance to hack you down. Flamboyant confidence can maim your chance with sadists on the seat "You smell nice"...