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Berger to Ajah; a Tale of Rape and Consent



If you don’t know why "Berger to Ajah" is trending, you will now. Behind it is a story of a twitter meet-up. Uche, the bearded, everyone-dream, everyday twitter guy DM-ing B moore and things got rosy. They chatted for a while and planned to meet up sometime in 2016. It was a trip from Berger to Ajah.  Harrowing with the fact the B Moore expected a pleasant connection but Uche could only give an unaffectionate but (probable) relish-able sex.

Fast forward to the present, Uche dude has been alleged to rape some girl through an advocate on this same twitter. B moore caught a wind of that, teamed up with the advocate for solidarity. The complex situation becomes compounded-complex. To clear the air, Uche leaked all private chats and DMs between him and B Moore showing their prior- and post-coital interaction. 




B-more encounter was obviously not a rape but an un-met expectation after a sexual knowledge. The bitterness of not being wanted after a mutually consented sex always ignited such hurt. In a tweet, B Moore further claimed that her consent to Uche was just to avert rape as she has experienced rape twice. Tweeps now argue between rape and sex, coercion and consent. 





 Anyway, the story has been leaked and it is a tip of many of such issues happening across the country. No one will tell you dating online is a crime. But to be safe, you need social-media-personality intelligence. People are not who they seem. Pseudo-persons are everywhere. Impersonation and unreal personalities abound. 

 My advice to damsels will be no to such dating. If you must, the guy visits first. Subsequent visits can be yours. If stubborn attraction forces you to desire going, establish explicit contact through calls--audio and video even relative-calling. Check the dude's wall for familial and office interaction to corroborate what he has told you.  Check-ins, and places he's been to can help. Chat any of his most tagged friends, or frequent respondents just to establish any figment of lies. Link his Twitter personality to his Facebook, Instagram and other accounts. If there is any lie, don’t and please deal with your desire within your known circle. 

Remember, sexual experience ceases to be a rape in as much there is no evidence of force. Visiting a dude unknown (and untested), every damsel should pessimistically expect the worse. Complicity is giving a strange dude that opportunity. We should learn to be wise: at least to reduce to minimal, such occurrence. If Uche dude is guilty he should be punished. If not, such spurious rape claimants should be severely punished too like a rapist.   

--toonday 

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