NEIGHBOURS AND MARRIAGE

I used to have some friendly neighbors in the Service Apartment beside my house. We did watch football matches, films, and share jokes after work. They were many and I was lonely. It was a balance equation of convenience that virtually every transferable chore I performed it in their place except eating. Their place was a Disney Land for me.‎ Not until mid-November that I was told they would be leaving. Their Boss lightly asked: "Alfa, won't you miss us so?". But I couldn't voice a reply because such feelings are best expressed when felt.

Now they have moved. The Disney Land has turned to lifeless building with breeze sweeping dry leaves around and empty windows opening and shutting at breeze's volition. The house, every time I see it, looks like an haunted house in American horror movies. All I could have done to have my Disney back is to pay for my neighbors' rent but can I afford such?

Marriage, I am afraid, is like that. Your husband or wife that has been your disney-personified turns to an haunting sight just because those attributes you so much love, like my neighbors that I was so much fond of, have disappeared. All you have to do is to ask yourself what it will cost you to get those attributes back. Can you afford it? Does the cost worth your domestic peace? Can you get your spouse to exude those appealing characteristics again? Is your spouse aware that those attributes are readily missing like my neighbour asked me?

Please if the haunting doesn't stop, divorce is better than domestic violence or murder as I have decided to find another accommodation to severe the haunting experience. Kindly remember, domestic peace is worth any cost. It is the foundation to all be-ing of human; from cradle to marriage and to grave.

#SaveMarriage #OperationDomesticPeaceInNigeria #NoToDomesticViolence #DivorceIsABetterOptionToSpousalMurder.

-toonday 08-12-2016

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